The year 2012 has been eventful in a true sense. Everyone is aware of how a major portion of the people came together for causes like the Jan Lokpal Bill and the recent Delhi rape incident. There is immense power vested in the people of a country, what is required is the realization that it can be harnessed. I keep telling that this country needs another revolution. Slowly we are headed there and you’ll see the youth being the major contributors to it. Like they say in the Tata Tea ad, “abhi toh desh ubal raha hai”. How you and I can be a part of it? By doing your bit. If every individual has the sense of right and wrong and they stick to doing what is right, you don’t need anybody to teach you, monitor you or control you.
Every kid is probably taught what is right and what is wrong and yet I wonder how people end up with crooked minds, such that they don’t care about the value of another person’s life. No person has the right to touch another person without the individual’s consent. This should be rooted into the minds of the people.
We as individuals should teach our children right from the beginning about the ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’. Children should be aware of whether the person touching him/her is trustable. Whether they are comfortable or the touch makes them uncomfortable. They should report to the parent when something is odd. When many rape incidents go unreported, most child molestation incidents never come out in the open. A child may be ignorant, may be scared or may even be threatened which makes the kid maintain silence. Most of these incidents shockingly involve family members. But every child is left with mistrust towards others.
I have myself been there, faced that. At that point of time, I was scared to narrate the incident to my parents as I felt nobody would believe me. Even till date only my mother and my husband are aware of the incident. I was sharp or aware enough to keep distance and be alert of the people post the incident and hence maybe I was spared in the sense of not having faced worse scenarios.
It enrages me when I see people kissing small kids on their lips. God! I feel like dragging them and giving them a piece of my mind. Learn how to cuddle a baby. Kiss a baby on the cheek or forehead if you wanna show your affection. I hate it when people pull hard at a child’s cheek too. They behave as if it’s cuddling and that it doesn’t hurt. It does!!
There’s a kid which comes in our office cab and I observed that the driver pulled really hard at her cheeks everyday. The child would begin to cry and he would pretend as if nothing happened. I know he adores the kid, but this was no way to behave. I did reprimand him a couple of times. I think it was also the mom’s duty to tell him strictly, not to do it. But she amazingly every single time kept quite. One fine the day, the kid closed her cheeks with her cute little palms when she was getting down and that is when he felt bad and realized that it was hurting the kid. He stopped doing it from the next day.
Why does a child or as a matter of fact any being have to express to you about how to treat him/her/it? Don’t you as a human being have the rationality to know what to do?