Why does everyone wanna be so critical in life? It appears as if they attain immense pleasure in saying ‘you did it wrong’ or that ‘I told you so!’. I can’t deny the fact that, I have previously used the ‘I told you so’ statement many a time. But from the time I realized that it’s just not what anybody or even I would wanna here, in a situation gone wrong, I have made it a point, not to use those words.
People have this huge urge to correct you every time you make a mistake. They have to tell you, “you know, this is where you went wrong”, “You are still going wrong about 10% of the time”, “Why did you do it this way? It should be done
my this way”. On the other hand, rarely do we hear people say, “Hey! you did a great job!”, “Awesome, you are doing good. You got it right 90% of the time.”, “Wow! that’s a new way to do that!”. See the difference?
Why is it so hard to appreciate a person? Every appraisal cycle, almost every employee complains that his manager didn’t give him a good rating. They don’t appreciate him, no matter how hard he works. What they don’t realize is that they do the same thing outside of work, at home with their spouse, children, parents, friends. There the appreciation may not be in the form of remuneration, but it is very valuable!
People hold back their appreciative words or love assuming that it is not a good thing to be expressive. They assume that it will get to the person’s head and there’s a possibility of them undervaluing it. What I read a long time back and I have tried to make it a part of my life is to be appreciative. Pay a compliment to the person, if you like something nice. The best thing about it is, it makes the other person happy. 🙂
How many times have we seen that when a person dies, there are lots of people praising how he/she was such a great being. The same person would have hardly heard this when alive. If he had, wouldn’t it bring him so much happiness?
When somebody pays you a compliment on the way you look, when your boss says you did a good job or when someone appreciates what you wrote, doesn’t that just make you day!!?? Then, pass it on..
If you love a person, tell them that frequently. Congratulate someone on a job well done. Compliment someone about their lovely smile. Tell that the food tastes good, when someone cooks for you. Spread the positivity and cheer. 🙂 You may or may not get another chance!