Are we losing touch of the traditional things in an attempt to adopt everything modern?
I had worn anklets during the Ganesha-Gowri festival that went by a few days back. I didn’t remove them. The result is, when I walk in the office the peal of the anklets can be clearly heard. This makes people turn around and observe who it is. My friends were even making fun me for the same, saying “as if the clippety-clop of the girls’ high heels wasn’t enough”. :PAfter that I have been planning to take it off, but just keep forgetting when at home. 😦
Well.. This is not the only instance I have seen this behavior. I come from a South Indian Brahmin family where girls are always taught to wear bangles, bindi etc. Wearing flowers in the hair was common too. Not that we had any restrictions about wearing western clothes, but we were expected to dress a particular way for special occasions. During my Pre-University college, I had a long plait and I personally liked wearing flowers occasionally. I knew some girls sniggered and made fun of it. These were girls whom I knew and spoke to. But none of them dared to speak to me or make fun of me directly on my face. A common friend once told me that they refer to me as Mallige Hoova (Jasmine flowers) in their conversations. I felt really bad and humiliated. 😦 I stopped wearing flowers altogether, except for some family functions. When my mom used to ask me to, I used to fight with her saying, I don’t want people to make fun of me.
Though I like wearing jeans pant and t-shirts, I feel more comfortable in the traditional salwar-kameez. Infact I love wearing a saree, but only do so occasionally. But this nature of mine too has got it’s share of comments. People call such girls behenji. Though the word means sister, it really isn’t used in that context.
I wonder why people have built such opinions about their traditional wear and customs. They are embracing the foreign culture more and everything that is our own, seems down class to them. In fact the foreigners who come to India are fascinated by the Indian types and varieties of sarees. I know a lady from one of the online groups that I am a part of. When in India recently, she totally fell in love with the South Indian Filter Coffee and the silk sarees. So much that she bought a saree and referred videos to learn how to tie it. As for the coffee, she bought the traditional filter from here. When back home in her country, she was disappointed that their coffee still tastes different from the one she drank here. The ladies in the forum then helped her find an Indian store and buy a coffee powder of an Indian brand. She was SO happy with the end result!! 🙂 I felt so happy when I got to know that!
It’s not that we shouldn’t appreciate or adopt anything foreign. We should also learn to respect what is ours! We have already lost so many customs and traditions in the modernization. Maybe we can try and save some harmless ones?