Not following the conventional order of childhood to the present, I would like to write the posts in the order of the things I learnt about and from SL.
When conversing I found out that she previously worked as a journalist. It was through one of the editors there that she found contacts and moved to towards the technical writing field in IT ( for the obvious monetary reasons ). After having worked in multiple places, she is now here.
Back home, she has her daily struggle, esp with her FIL. He has a son (SL’s husband) and two daughters. But according to him the rules are different for daughters and DILs. Though the in-laws stay in the same house, he doesn’t want to take the responsibility of taking care of the grandchild, even for a while. SL’s daughter goes to school and then to a day care, despite the fact that there are people at home.
He doesn’t let her have a maid at home. After her office work, she needs to go pick up her daughter from day care, go home and cook, wash the vessels, do all the cleaning herself. No one does anything to help her out! The only reason SL tolerates the man is because she has a nice MIL. Though she can’t do much to change her husband’s attitude, she is really appreciative of SL and supports her in whatever manner she can.
Apparently her FIL dislikes her as his son married SL against his wishes. SL on the other hand waited for a good 9 years to marry the guy. She had to wait as his sisters were yet to get married. She chose to wait for him, despite all the oppositions. Yet she has to face this treatment. Her husband unable to speak anything in front of his parents, often stays out of the arguments and doesn’t help her out.
Well.. The recent change which worked out well for her is her parents-in-law moving to new a house, as their daughter is facing some issues in her marriage and they have relocated to stay with her. Well, at least SL can now have a maid to help her out with stuff.
What amazes me is her cheerful nature despite facing so many issues back home and having to do so many tasks. I on the other hand even crib about people not talking to me at home. 😛
More on her childhood in the next post… 🙂