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WordPress tells me it’s been 3 years since I started blogging! 🙂 That’s cool, though it’s been longer, considering that I had another blog before (of which I have no clue now) 😐

First thing that popped into my mind when I saw WP’s congratulatory message was, it’s been 3 years since I got married too. Did I start this blog, to crib about my married life?! Actually No. Surprisingly so, though SO many things happen every day, with my in-laws and there are things that pull me down and things that I am proud of at times, I have somehow held back writing about that here.

Another reason for that could be the fact that though I tend to get emotional (both sad and angry) very soon, but after a while I put that aside and try to come back to normalcy, both in my words and deeds. Things and words affect me instantly. But by the time I sit to write down about it, I wouldn’t be in the same frame of mind. Works for the good most times.

WP also reminded me that this time I didn’t do an Anniversary (Wedding wala) post in November. That’s because I was pretty pissed off with my husband that day. We in fact had a good fight and I had a good cry before going to bed. I was in a really foul mood by the time the day came to end.

Anyone who has read my old posts would know that I love to be pampered on birthdays and anniversaries. On all other days it’s ok, I mean the routine has to be followed and I do that diligently. My argument is that twice a year can’t a person think of or plan something special? It doesn’t have to be something big, but something out of the usual. Though we have discussed and argued about this at lengths, nothing seems to change year after year.

BG’s argument is that he has never seen any such celebration or special treatment on his birthday or his parents’ anniversary so far, so he is not used to the idea. My argument on the other hand is that I have seen and experienced the special treatment from all friends and family. Also, since I have changed so much since marriage to adjust to his family, can he not change and try and make 2 days a year special for us? Not the right line of argument, I know, but I can’t help it!

This anniversary saw me go to work as usual, a visit to the temple, eating a Dosa outside (which we do on many other days) and getting back home to finish all the chores and get things ready for the next day! This left me mighty upset and angry.

Luckily or unluckily our birthdays fall back to back too. I always try to think of something different to give him on his birthday and sometimes I go overboard doing the same. This upsets me even further when the next day he has nothing planned. It’s not about expecting in return, but about his lack of effort. It hurts me when he says, what’s special about this day, every day is special. But that’s only in words really, because every day my time is eaten up by work, chores, clean up etc., leaving me with a “zero” special feeling!

With our birthdays coming next month and I was pretty excited till now and also had an awesome gift plan, which I excitedly saw to completion, well in advance. Now with everything ready I was super happy, until WordPress took me into the above stream of thoughts. It’s dreadful to think of a sad birthday, after a sad anniversary. Well some consolation, is that I’ve bought a gift for myself, along with buying one for him! 😛 😀

Following my New Year resolution and making myself happy! 🙂 Isn’t that good, what say?

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24 Comments Add yours

  1. Bikramjit says:

    I think this is a man thing.. and please don’t kill me now.. The reason I say is I forget birthdays or anniversaries of friends and family ..

  2. Bikramjit says:

    Ooops pressed the publish button by mistake..

    So I was saying I forget too but thay does not mean the day is not special..

    although this is not a excuse I know. .
    But hey listen your blog birthday so first of all a wishing you a very happy blog anniversary. ..

    Party timesseeee. ….

    Take care and I am sure next month there is a surprise awaiting you toooooooo. …

    1. Arch says:

      A man thing is not a good enough reason! :-/
      Thanks for the wishes Bikram. 🙂 Really I have no hopes. 😛

  3. Greenboochi says:

    You are one of the most honest persons I have met in this blogosphere – you write straight out of your heart and thats why I love reading your posts, Arch. I can so relate to the expectation of special treatment on special days. And I do spend enough time planning S’s birthday or our anniversary. Can I say that he does the same for me? He does, but not up to my expectation. He thinks long and hard, but ends up buying me a dress or material by default. I am the planner of the house and he expects me to plan my special day too.. most of the times, there is no surprise element involved. It does disappoint me a bit but I have come to accept how he is. Just like BG, S’s family is very light on things like these and he is not used to the special treatment. He vehemently protests any plans I make on his birthday too which ends up hurting me. Sigh. Never ending story.

    But but.. as I said I love your blog! Happy blogiversary. And getting yourself a gift – thats the spirit I say 🙂

    1. Tharani says:

      Oye you ladies. Wait till you have babies😆😆

    2. Arch says:

      Thank you so much GB! Reading your comment made my day! 🙂
      Sad how these men cannot get us!! x-(

  4. Tharani says:

    Belated blog anniversary and wedding anniversary to you and big tight hugs to you. I just bug the husband how my day should be at least a month before and he makes it happen. It’s too much to expect from the husband to plan something and I have come to make peace with it.

    1. Arch says:

      Thank you Tharani!! 🙂
      I am tired of trying to make peace with so many things! 😛

  5. Sounds pretty good 😛 and happy 3rd anniversary

    1. Arch says:

      Thank you Archya! 🙂
      The buying gift for myself part sounds good, doesn’t it? 😛

      1. Ya! Self pampering is the best kind of pampering u can get 😉

  6. In our case, we both are like BG. Not that my parents never celebrated my birthday(they always did) . But we both don’t care much about celebrating.

    1. Forgot to wish – happy blog anniversary 🙂

  7. Lavender says:

    Happy happy blogoversary arch 🙂

    1. Arch says:

      Thank you Lavender! 🙂

  8. Mi says:

    haa…so sweet..3 years of blogging and can’t say how much I love to read your posts! 🙂 I also remembering reading your previous blog too.. I may have forgotten the name though!
    Your birthday can be made special if you want.. you have to take the onus of doing that..Simple! 🙂 I like your new year resolution! Have a great year ahead! 🙂

    1. Arch says:

      Thank you Mi! Missed you around here too. 🙂

  9. pins & ashes says:

    It is not abt a man’s or a woman’s thing/habit, people hide behind such large scale excuses is what I feel.

    Among people, a few people remember and wish, a few people remember, wish and plan surprises, a few people do none of these. I think we shd just accept them as they are.. It is also part of family practices. Recently, we celebrated a friend’s birthday .. She said she has never cut cake on her birthday. But her mother makes kheer or some other sweet.. And birthday ends with it.. Happiest of anniversary Arch.. 🙂

    1. Arch says:

      Thank you PnA! 🙂
      I know everyone’s different and we have to accept them as they are. But at certain times, dil hai ke manata nahi. 😦

  10. Titaxy says:

    Happy blog anniversary and happy anniversary. 😊

    1. Arch says:

      Oh T! It’s so good to see you here again! 🙂 Thank you so much for the wishes! ❤

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